How To Deal With Rude People!!

I think everyone at some point in their day or week, comes across the path of at least one person who is rude to you.

I encountered a few people in my life that were extra-rude! I first thought, maybe they are just having a bad day, maybe they can't help that they lack people skills and kindness. Then as I continued to speak to rude person #1, I realized, "I think they are just rude!" Then I came across rude person #2, and again I was amazed at their rudeness! How can these people go though life mowing people over with their horrible attitudes and words?

This is what I've realized when I "get" to come in contact with these "rude-y's"...

#1. Don't let them effect you with their rudeness ~ I try to never react with what I feel like dishing out to them...that would make me just as awful as them.
To the rude lady at the cupcake shop who rudely tried to make me feel like an idiot..to which I could have rudely replied, "You are one of the rudest business people I've ever dealt with...I could go on twitter/youtube/facebook and have thousands of people hear about how stinkin' rude you are and that NO ONE should ever buy your stupid cupcakes. You have the worst people skills and HOW DARE YOU SPEAK TO anyone, let alone a potential customer that way you depressing little woman! I don't want anyone to ever have to deal with you or your pretentious little cupcake bakery!" BUT I DIDN'T SAY ANY  OF THAT! (i just had to think of all the awful things I COULD have said, but I don't even naturally think like that! ha ha ha)
Instead I said, "OK, sounds like this won't work out. Maybe I'll try back when you have all your ordering figured out. Have a great day, bye!"

#2. Never let these rudey ones put a damper on your happiness ~ Don't let them steal your happiness, that only lets them win with the "power of their rudeness"! The best revenge is being extra happy and not-effected!

#3. Overpower the rudeness ~ that saying kill em' with kindness is my favorite way of dealing with rude people. Nothing makes a "rudey" feel worse than when you are nice to them...it takes the angry wind, right out of their sails!

#4. People that are rude have no clue what graciousness is ~ Graciousness is marked by kindness, sympathy, and unaffected politeness (according to the dictionary) and rude people are the complete opposite - Ungraciousness is an offensive lack of good manners. We want nothing to do with that.

#5.  Feel sorry for rude people ~ Yes, that's right, feel sorry for them, this is a horrible "disease of rudeness" that they have. I bet they have misery and anger in their lives at every turn. That's why it spills out of them like an overflowing bathtub...you get filled up on what's in the inside and it spills out.

#6. Spill some kindess ~ just like the "rudey's" are full of anger and misery (their bathtubs are overflowing)......make sure you fill yourself with kindness, so that kindness spills out on everyone that comes in your path, from a waitress to your grandma, to a stranger that you hold the door open for, or let go in front of you in line when you see they only have a few items and you have a whole cart full.

Rudeness only has an effect if we let it. Are there rude people in the world? Yes. Are they almost everywhere we go? Yes. Do we have to be victim to their rudeness? NO! We can choose to put up our mirror of "rude-reflection"...not only will it bounce back the rudeness that they just spit out at us...so that our kindness will show them how "rude-iculous" they were, but also, that we WILL NOT LET IT EFFECT US or our DAY! And even if they still keep on keepin' on with their rude ways.....we can rejoice that we are not like that, and get away from them as fast as we can!

May you be a light of sparkling kindness wherever you go today...leave a path of people who feel better for having come into your presence. A big smile, a nice "thanks you so much!", and a kind, "have a great day!"...can totally bring a smile to someone's day.
A compliment, a kind smile, and something nice or encouraging...will always make someone's day better!

Let's be a huge revolution of "happy-day-maker's" where ever we go today...and every day!

typed with love from someone who battled a few "rudeys" all day...and not a one of them won! ha ha ha

huge love and super big smile...Your Kelly!

How to get rid of that stormy day!

ARE YOU GOING THOUGH A STORM IN LIFE?

I love the saying: "Don't Let the Storms of Your Past, Cloud Your Future"

I've had many storms in my life, from being cheated on, hurt, feeling like my dreams were over, the pain of the loss of my parents, being a transsexual, being broke, I could keep going on and on (ha ha ha)...and I definitely could've let that gloom up my future.

• Whether it was a relationship "storm"- someone hurt you, cheated on you, broke your heart, betrayed you.


• A depression storm- you feel hopeless, sad, and feel like giving up.

• A financial storm - you are feeling like your wallet is way to empty, your bank account has gone on a diet, and your bills are scaring you...


• Past Storms- you had a bad childhood, loss of someone dear to you, you've grown up with a family life, you've had trouble in your past, you feel guilty over something.

Chase the Storm Clouds Away

You have to make sure you chase the storm clouds away, and let the beautiful rainbow of your future come out and shine.

Your thoughts are more powerful than you know!!!

• If you just let any old "stormy" thought keep creeping into your mind- you are sure to stay in "stormy-land"!


• You must "re-set" the weather in your life!


• Think about how you want things to be, instead of how things are or how they have been. ~ If you've been hurt or disappointed, stop thinking about how hurt and disappointed you are and think about and tell yourself, "I am strong and have a bright future! I am getting better and better each day!"

• And just like you can't eat once a week and think that will keep you filled, you need to eat several times a day...same thing with your thoughts- you need to feed your mind with positive thoughts all day long!

GET READY TO LET THE RAINBOW SHINE IN YOUR FUTURE

Sure we may have more storms in life...but as long as you don't let the rain and clouds ruin your future...you can anticipate the rainbow!

The sun will always come out!

And sometimes our tears are like the rain that waters the rainbows in our heart! So, my precious hearts....if the rain or tears are falling right now in your life....know that I am sending you a hug right now, for my arms to hold your heart...and say, "it's okay....this storm will pass, and  your future will grow full with blossoms, for even the flowers need the rainstorms to grow!"

My life has seen storms of all kinds....heartbreak, hopelessness, hurt, sadness, no money...just feeling like I can't go on...

and through it all I would tell myself, "Stop it Kelly...you better stop it with this sinkin'-stinkin'-thinkin'....and get your mind back on track with positive thoughts right now!"

*where the mind goes...the person follows....

Lead your self into great thoughts and places.

Tell yourself:

• I am great (even if you feel you're not...yet!)


• I am cherished and adored!


• My future is going to be awesome!


• I can't wait to see what is waiting for me  in this life!


• I will make my dreams come true!


• I will find someone that will cherish and love me so much they will NEVER even think of hurting me in ANY way at all!


• I am worthy of being loved!


• I am happy- rain or shine!

I love you all so much...and I don't care what storms you have in your past...THEY WILL NOT CLOUD YOUR FUTURE....the storms only watered the blossoms in your life....and will make your future that much more beautiful with "watered" flowers!

This day is great and is waiting for you to change your thoughts, which will change your mind, which will change your life!


Watch your thoughts, for they become your words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become your character.
Watch your character, for it becomes you destiny.
- Anonymous

People always ask if it's okay to repost something I've written- PLEASE, please, please feel free to pass this on, post it where ever you'd like...I want to be able to encourage as many hurting, "stormy" hearts as possible!

Think about thoughts that are wonderful today....don't let those little "cloudy" thoughts sneek in...
huge love and even bigger, better thoughts....your Kelly

Moments in life........

We all have days that we want this day to end. Whether your heart is breaking, your depressed, sad, hurt...frustrated or overwhelmed....believe me, I understand.

I am human. I am real. I cry. I get sad....I want you to know I go through all the things you do and you are going through!

Last night I definitely washed my heart with tears.  And as I cried, I could feel my heart trying to mend itself....and as more tears fell...and my nose got stuffed up....I felt all of me melt.

Sometimes things in our lives feel so far from perfect. So imperfect, that our hearts long for things to be so right. We may feel like our lives are far away from the “perfect lives” we see on tv or in movies. We may be unhappy with our looks. With decisions we made and wish we could take back. Whatever the case may be.

I’m here to to say: It’s ok, we are real, our feelings are real. That’s what makes us beautiful. Real is beautiful.

I want you to know that if tears have been running down your face....”tears are rain for your heart that just bring out rainbows and flowers in your soul”...Even though you may have tears at night, you can dance and sing in the morning with a new day, filled with new hope....new smiles....new songs of happiness!

It's healthy to cry, argue, scream, and vent. It gets your feelings out and sometimes you just need it to feel release and relief.
When you have a moment:

love yourself- be kind, and tell yourself it’s ok....
rest- sleep restores and refreshes our mind to deal with all the “problems” in our lives
give yourself permission to be imperfect- some of the most amazing people I’ve ever known were ones that had lives that were FAR from perfect
if tears are falling- let them fall, let your mascara get all messed up (ha ha ha)...release all that your heart is full with...
“talk in a can”- talk with can’s....”I can be happy”, “I can get through this”, I can be happy happy no matter how imperfect my life is”. “I can do it!!!!”

I have been in many moments that I thought I couldn’t take much more of...and in all those moments I said, “these things may seem too BIG for me, TOO much to handle, I can’t take anymore!”...
STOP....take a deep breath...say, “I’m ok....I am much stronger than I think. I can go through anything...and just like that broken shattered mirror that shines are sparkled more and more because of all it’s brokeness... we will shine and sparkle more!”

Look and remember who you love and care about. Find things to be grateful for dears. Don't think you are the only one with issues or fight or scream! We all have those moments!! It is nothing to be ashamed of my darlings.
I will be that expert sailor, with all kinds of stories of awful storms I’ve been through...but you know what...just like an old wise sailor....I will be able to go through any storm and steer my little “life” boat though anything because I’ve navigated through some serious “troubled storms in my life!”

So the next time you are feeling down.....know that it’s ok...I’ve been there with you....I was just there last night!  ha ha ha ha

And as my gramma says: “Any day your above ground is a good day!”

Huge love my precious hearts.....I hope you can feel the hug I’m sending to your heart right now!
I feel down a lot at times because of things, but I look around and remember the loved ones I have right now.
How lucky I am to have a husband, a beautiful step-daughter, and friends and fans who support me through all.

I'm sleepy.......
huge love....again

Lets Make 2011 Great!

no matter how horrible or hurt filled..that 2010 may have been....
we're gonna hurdle over hurts....and soar with hope into 2011~

Together...let's make 2011 awesome...we're gonna go after our dreams and hopes...and we're not gonna let any hurts, discouragement, or bad situations stop us!

QUOTE OF THE DAY:

"if you keep looking back at your past problems and hurts...you're going to crash into something in your future because you're not looking at the future in front of you!"

10 things to help make your new year bright:

• 1. Leave the hurts of 2010 where they belong..in 2010!


• 2. Make this year the year you make some goals- goals are dreams with deadlines!


• 3. Dare to be different in everything you do!


• 4. Encourage, compliment or say something kind to everyone you talk to.


• 5. Live like a leader...not a follower.


• 6. Stop avoiding confrontation- take control of your life and deal with all things you want to change and the ways that people treat you.


• 7. Make a change- in anything, relationships, your hair, career, friends.


• 8. Only have friends that make you a better person...some negative, rude, depressing friends, thay make you feel bad...may need to stay in 2010! (ha ha ha)


• 9. Dare to live life and make choices even if your not promised the outcome. (people who have changed the world or accomplished great things...did things without knowing if it would work or not!)


• 10. Expect greatness, seek happiness, and don't let any circumstance, person, or situation steal your joy. You are the owner of your happiness...don't just let any ol' thing or person take it from you!

We're in this as a team....GO TEAM Kelly FAMILY! I love you all so much...and am honored to be able to speak love into your hearts!

 

REMEMBER!!! When hurts carry on in your life....realize hurt people hurt other people...if you don't forgive - you will carry that unforgiveness in your heart....you have to choose to let it go..when you release it you have the choice to be free and you put it in the past and move on! It's a waste of time to be angry and mad...life is short...you will accomplish so much more when you let things go...LETS MAKE 2011 GREAT