Tuesday, January 24, 2012
AVN 's Inequality & Segregation Needs to Stop!
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Friday, January 20, 2012
Secret Kelly Radio is RETURNING!!
Bigger and better than ever!!
Bigger stars, more advice, more sex talk, and more support and love!!
You will now be able to call in!!
I'm joining the Adult Broadcast Network!
Bigger stars, more advice, more sex talk, and more support and love!!
You will now be able to call in!!
I'm joining the Adult Broadcast Network!
Thursday, January 19, 2012
My Mother-In-law
My mother-in-law is going through a very tough time now. She has lived a very hard life, from her husband running out on her after 20 years leaving her as a single mother to car accidents and more. My mother-in-law found out in December she has larynx/tongue/mouth cancer. Yesterday she went through hours of surgery to clear it. It went from thinking she had stage 3 cancer to stage 4 A (big cancer). She has one of the largest cancers they can operate on.
Luckily she came through surgery strong, and is doing well. We saw her in ICU today, it was so scary and sad to see her lying in the bed. It took us all a moment to find our composure. To see the scar where they operated on her mouth, chin, and throat was just unexpected. The recovery will be a long one, but the doctor seems to think she'll be back to work in four months. A work that she has dedicated her life to and loves. She is a flight purser. I know this will push her to fight harder so she can get back to work.
She has gone through so much, and she is such a good and sweet person. This is definitely is something she doesn't deserve. I thought I'd share some pictures of her and vent about it a bit.
These are from happier times and from her modeling career. Yes the little guy is my husband. Wasn't he a cutie?
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Luckily she came through surgery strong, and is doing well. We saw her in ICU today, it was so scary and sad to see her lying in the bed. It took us all a moment to find our composure. To see the scar where they operated on her mouth, chin, and throat was just unexpected. The recovery will be a long one, but the doctor seems to think she'll be back to work in four months. A work that she has dedicated her life to and loves. She is a flight purser. I know this will push her to fight harder so she can get back to work.
She has gone through so much, and she is such a good and sweet person. This is definitely is something she doesn't deserve. I thought I'd share some pictures of her and vent about it a bit.
These are from happier times and from her modeling career. Yes the little guy is my husband. Wasn't he a cutie?
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Sunday, January 15, 2012
Family Weekend
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Pics above are from this weekend - excuse some of the pics I had no make up on lol
Can I just say - I realize how lucky I am every time I spend time with my husband, step-daughter, and mother-in-law. We had so much fun this weekend enjoying each others time. Family is so important, whether it be your blood, step, or friend family. We should cherish the moments we have, we have so little time.
We started our weekend with Joyful Noise! I love Dolly Parton and Queen Latifah, sorry Queen, but Dolly is my Queen! It was such a cute movie, and husband even liked it! I was really surprised by this, since it was about a church choir, and he is a very strong atheist. I guess my Dolly won him over!
After dinner we went out to this very cute and nice Mexican Restaurant. My husband being half spanish loves his some Mexican cuisine. What I loved is they had a mariachi band, who sang three songs to us, which was so sweet. One of my fav songs is Cielito Lindo and it was so fun having us all sing it with them! How love and laughter can travel through song. Is amazing to me, and I wish time just stood still at those moments.
Dinner took us home where the mother-in-law watched movies, and hubby and the step-daughter played battleship. It was so cute hearing them argue, they are so much alike. Very competitive, and have to be right. We stayed up till all hours or should I say hubby and step-daughter did! Mother-in-law went to bed, after the first movie, and I fell asleep after 1 a.m. central time :P!
Today, the hubby, step-daughter, and I got up early to go to a breakfast place! It was oh so good, with so much bacon! If you live in the Chicago area, stop by Egg Harbor! You will not regret it! After breakfast we hightailed it over to Best Buy to goof off on the equipment and new electronics they have. The step-daughter and I had so much fun playing the PS3 dance game in the middle of the store. Unfortunately they took pictures of us for promo, and we were both still in our pjs and no make up. Just the kind of picture I want out there! Looking like a bum, and jumping around like a crazy person. Oh well, we had fun and that's all that matters!
Overall the weekend was awesome, and I hope everyone else had just as enjoyable weekend with whatever they chose to do!
Love,
Kelly
Pics above are from this weekend - excuse some of the pics I had no make up on lol
Can I just say - I realize how lucky I am every time I spend time with my husband, step-daughter, and mother-in-law. We had so much fun this weekend enjoying each others time. Family is so important, whether it be your blood, step, or friend family. We should cherish the moments we have, we have so little time.
We started our weekend with Joyful Noise! I love Dolly Parton and Queen Latifah, sorry Queen, but Dolly is my Queen! It was such a cute movie, and husband even liked it! I was really surprised by this, since it was about a church choir, and he is a very strong atheist. I guess my Dolly won him over!
After dinner we went out to this very cute and nice Mexican Restaurant. My husband being half spanish loves his some Mexican cuisine. What I loved is they had a mariachi band, who sang three songs to us, which was so sweet. One of my fav songs is Cielito Lindo and it was so fun having us all sing it with them! How love and laughter can travel through song. Is amazing to me, and I wish time just stood still at those moments.
Dinner took us home where the mother-in-law watched movies, and hubby and the step-daughter played battleship. It was so cute hearing them argue, they are so much alike. Very competitive, and have to be right. We stayed up till all hours or should I say hubby and step-daughter did! Mother-in-law went to bed, after the first movie, and I fell asleep after 1 a.m. central time :P!
Today, the hubby, step-daughter, and I got up early to go to a breakfast place! It was oh so good, with so much bacon! If you live in the Chicago area, stop by Egg Harbor! You will not regret it! After breakfast we hightailed it over to Best Buy to goof off on the equipment and new electronics they have. The step-daughter and I had so much fun playing the PS3 dance game in the middle of the store. Unfortunately they took pictures of us for promo, and we were both still in our pjs and no make up. Just the kind of picture I want out there! Looking like a bum, and jumping around like a crazy person. Oh well, we had fun and that's all that matters!
Overall the weekend was awesome, and I hope everyone else had just as enjoyable weekend with whatever they chose to do!
Love,
Kelly
Sunday, January 8, 2012
Saturday, January 7, 2012
Forgiven!
I can already tell this is going to be a HUGELY shared post! Ha ha ha!
But seriously, there are some specific things that we can unknowingly do that will strangle our life and the joy that is meant for us. It's called..."staying mad at every single person who you think hasn't treated you right."
I can personally guarantee that this specific thing will indeed make you and your life miserable, because I DID exactly that. After my mom died, I was angry between 16 to 21, and would lash out for no reason. I kept mental records of every wrong done to me by everyone from my dad to my boss. I sincerely believed every one of those wrongs, should be made right and with interest. I typically moved that person to the "banished" zone until they made enough apologies or did something to redeem themselves in order for me to allow them back into my life. It's very controlling. And rather ugly.
But what I've learned, and sometimes I have to have a refresher on it...LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS. And that I, personally, need to forgive quickly AND often. Even the same creep who keeps doing the same things that caused me to be offended, angry or hurt. This is MAJOR WORK. And to be able to forgive, is a sure sign of maturity and bliss.
And there is blessing in forgiving. It's FREEDOM for the offended. Most people think "staying mad" is a way to be in control or power, but it's not. It's like a strangle hold, but on yourself. Most times the other person suffers very little, and the offended person suffers the most. So why hold on to something that only hurts you, and rarely--the person who hurt you?
And there are some FABULOUS rewards for forgiving.
I get a lot of emails that people say "this or that was unforgivable" and even one email was so emotionally difficult that they said they could never forgive this one person because they killed their brother. Talk about intense. But even at taking the life of a loved one. You are harboring the pain inside and making it harder on yourself. You have to let go of all the bad to heal.
I remember reading a book by Corrie Ten Boom, "The Hiding Place," and she actually witnessed her sister being raped and beaten while they were prisoners in a concentration camp during Hitler's Holocaust. Here's the really incredible part, that they very guard who did those things met her years later, and she FORGAVE him!
Now that is called forgiveness of steel! My forgiveness is whimpy like a wet noodle...I hope to have the spiritual maturity and strength of Ms. Ten Boom.
Well, I hope this had encouraged you to forgive in more ways than you thought before, and more often than you have in the past. Even if it's the same person you have to keep CHOOSING to forgive over and over again, it's worth every effort.
(PS: this is not for someone who is physically abusing you. You need to get out and away from them. And yes should forgive them, but it's not wise to stay in a physically dangerous place. Forgive from a distance.)
I love your socks off as you forgive! And I hope it expands your territory and brings abundance into every area of your life!
Forgiven,
Kelly
But seriously, there are some specific things that we can unknowingly do that will strangle our life and the joy that is meant for us. It's called..."staying mad at every single person who you think hasn't treated you right."
I can personally guarantee that this specific thing will indeed make you and your life miserable, because I DID exactly that. After my mom died, I was angry between 16 to 21, and would lash out for no reason. I kept mental records of every wrong done to me by everyone from my dad to my boss. I sincerely believed every one of those wrongs, should be made right and with interest. I typically moved that person to the "banished" zone until they made enough apologies or did something to redeem themselves in order for me to allow them back into my life. It's very controlling. And rather ugly.
But what I've learned, and sometimes I have to have a refresher on it...LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS. And that I, personally, need to forgive quickly AND often. Even the same creep who keeps doing the same things that caused me to be offended, angry or hurt. This is MAJOR WORK. And to be able to forgive, is a sure sign of maturity and bliss.
And there is blessing in forgiving. It's FREEDOM for the offended. Most people think "staying mad" is a way to be in control or power, but it's not. It's like a strangle hold, but on yourself. Most times the other person suffers very little, and the offended person suffers the most. So why hold on to something that only hurts you, and rarely--the person who hurt you?
And there are some FABULOUS rewards for forgiving.
I get a lot of emails that people say "this or that was unforgivable" and even one email was so emotionally difficult that they said they could never forgive this one person because they killed their brother. Talk about intense. But even at taking the life of a loved one. You are harboring the pain inside and making it harder on yourself. You have to let go of all the bad to heal.
I remember reading a book by Corrie Ten Boom, "The Hiding Place," and she actually witnessed her sister being raped and beaten while they were prisoners in a concentration camp during Hitler's Holocaust. Here's the really incredible part, that they very guard who did those things met her years later, and she FORGAVE him!
Now that is called forgiveness of steel! My forgiveness is whimpy like a wet noodle...I hope to have the spiritual maturity and strength of Ms. Ten Boom.
Well, I hope this had encouraged you to forgive in more ways than you thought before, and more often than you have in the past. Even if it's the same person you have to keep CHOOSING to forgive over and over again, it's worth every effort.
(PS: this is not for someone who is physically abusing you. You need to get out and away from them. And yes should forgive them, but it's not wise to stay in a physically dangerous place. Forgive from a distance.)
I love your socks off as you forgive! And I hope it expands your territory and brings abundance into every area of your life!
Forgiven,
Kelly
My New Years Resolution :)
To be more business oriented - to avoid drama - to support my community even if I dislike a certain girl.
I really feel we as trans-women make it hard on ourselves when it comes to connections with one another and others in general. We play like we are in the movie Mean Girls. As if we are still in high school, especially in the industry I am in. Don't get me wrong there are lot of great girls and I have a few friends, but why can't girls just be happy for another girl? One gets a toyline applaud them - one gets a mainstream part applaud them - one gets a husband that loves her and respects her applaud them. The more we stick together and the more positive things to happen in our community will help our community.
We need to stop the hate with in, if we ever expect anyone to respect us.
I will be sticking to this New Years Resolution...I'm turning 30 April 19th. I'm a grown woman - I have no time for childish antics.
Please share yours with me or maybe steal mine!
Let's spread some positivity!
Love,
Kelly
I really feel we as trans-women make it hard on ourselves when it comes to connections with one another and others in general. We play like we are in the movie Mean Girls. As if we are still in high school, especially in the industry I am in. Don't get me wrong there are lot of great girls and I have a few friends, but why can't girls just be happy for another girl? One gets a toyline applaud them - one gets a mainstream part applaud them - one gets a husband that loves her and respects her applaud them. The more we stick together and the more positive things to happen in our community will help our community.
We need to stop the hate with in, if we ever expect anyone to respect us.
I will be sticking to this New Years Resolution...I'm turning 30 April 19th. I'm a grown woman - I have no time for childish antics.
Please share yours with me or maybe steal mine!
Let's spread some positivity!
Love,
Kelly
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