Changing the way you see yourself...From Hate To Love

I spent many years hating who I was. I looked in the mirror and only saw imperfect, gross, and ugly staring back at me.

Here’s the other edge to the double edge sword of “hating yourself”—which is that you hate everybody else too. This is because you can only give away what you have. All I had was hate for me, and that’s all I had to give away.  I remember having a lot word vomit about a lot of people out of jealousy when younger.  I am so glad I'm over that stage of my life.

So how do you stop hating yourself when you can’t buy a new life, body, eyes, thighs or whatever it is that you hate about yourself? It begins with the inside. Why? Because finding redeeming qualities and personality that stand out can make anyone beautiful.  I've come across a lot of "beautiful people" with really horrible attitudes  and personalities that people just hate.  I have also come across people with beautiful personalities and attitudes about life who aren't attractive that seem to attract people like light to a moth.   But remember this also takes believing in yourself and surrounding yourself with positive people.  As well as accepting you and being the best you can be!


Remember love is blind for a reason. Not some crazy self absorbed thing, but true love is: (I know this is a bible verse (I'm an atheist), but it's still one of my favorite quotes from when I was a child)

1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

This is the love that you nee to give yourself, and when you do — you are filled on the inside. And with that loving heart and new attitude towards yourself is HOW we are able to show real love to others. Because first we must give love to ourselves, then we may give of it freely to others. Until then you will have superficial relationships with lovers and friends.  You'll be infused with jealousy which will cause you to gossip, hate, and be low and mean to others.

I am hoping for every pair of eyes that reads this. That you will fill yourself with love in every area of your life that has self hate, and that an attitude of gratitude wells up on the inside and restoration is done INSIDE so that you can give love on the OUTSIDE!

Find outlets - speak to someone about how you feel whether it be family, friends, or if you believe in God - confide in him.   Realize that these hurt feelings and self hate need to be flushed out!  Surround yourself with positive people and cut out the negative people who make you feel bad about yourself.

Just a tip what I  have done for years.  Everyday after I shower and still naked,  I tell myself I'm beautiful over and over again in the mirror about 20 times.  Then I dance to a few of my favorite songs to lift my spirits.  It has helped a lot.  Find what helps you!
Don't be afraid to confide your deepest feelings into someone you love - they are there to be an ear!  It's okay to hurt - we all do!  GOOD LUCK!

A ten gallon bucket of love,
Kelly

PS: Remember to Speak this out loud until you believe it, “I'm beautiful and deserve to be loved and I love myself!” because it’s the TRUTH!