Things change. Sometimes for the better, worse or just different. Learning that it's just part of life will save you A LOT of stress and frustration.
Choosing to forgive isn't fun. But it's worth it. (Sometimes you have to forgive to keep a good person in your life)
Stomping on the "Faith" gas is MUCH better than stomping on "Fear" break!
If you have a problem with food, stay out of the kitchen!
I can't always trust my feelings, because I can feel 20 different ways about the same thing in 5 minutes.
I can NOT feel like doing the "right thing" but STILL CHOOSE to do it.
No human has all the answers. Not even mom.
Asparagus makes your pee stink!
We get a lot more CHOICES than we think we do. Choose wisely.
And for my most annoying habit, being anxious...I've clung to happy memories which ALWAYS calms my fidgety head, heart and soul.
I've learned that life's plan is better than my plan. And I want to see what the plan ends up to be - maybe it's more than I want my plan.
That's it. All my "smarts" for this life so far. I hope you find a little helpful diamond among the rumble that you can take with you!
That being kind doesn't always pay off, but it makes you feel good!
That love and relationships take a lot of work - a lot of patience - and a lot of compromise!
Huge buckets of love, over flowing, and splashing everywhere,
Kelly
Friday, August 5, 2011
A great read for all women into men or raising a boy into a man :)
I have to honestly say that this book is a MUST read for any woman who is married to a man, dating a man, wanting a man or has a little man she is raising of her own!
I’ve read other books on relationships, the different needs of men and women, but by far this little book is a power packed page turner!
Everything in the book is “real” stuff. She interviewed over a thousand guys and then gives you the results of her research…she asks stuff that your man probably won’t answer truthfully, even if you tried to ask. Ex: what exactly happened in their head after that mini skirt walked in front of them…and it’s based on statistics so you get an understanding of what the majority of men thought, and what the few minority had to say.
And I like to use President Reagan's line "trust but verify." So I read a few of the questions and results to my own man, and he agreed her research and conclusions. This alone is astonishing because my man usually doesn't agree with much. And what was surprising to me was how much I DIDN'T know about how men think, after all I've been married to one for 3 years, you'd think I would have picked some clues up by then--nope! But thanks to Mrs. Feldhahn, I'm getting clued in!
I know you’ll be blessed by this book as I have been, and the man (or men) in your life will thank you for “finally getting it” puns totally intended! Ha ha ha!
Happy Reading,
Kelly
Sunday, July 31, 2011
When Do You Press The Override Button?
For me, it’s most of the time. My feelings lead me toward a dangerous path more often then not. Just think of the many feelings we have on a daily basis (just a few common ones): anger, contempt, jealousy, lust, rage, anxiety, annoyance, hatred, embarrassment, loneliness, pity, pride, guilt, despair, disappointment. You might think, well those are all the bad feelings…and yes, you are correct. Those are typically the kind that give us the most trouble!
Also, I can feel about 20 different ways about the same thing in a single day. This a clue that my feelings are that reliable. It reminds me of that old saying, “feelings are fickle”
(Def. of Fickle from Dictionary.com: unstable, unsteady, variable, capricious, fitful).
For example, when somone is really sick with bulimia, and they experience any one of these feelings—they send them into a desperate binge and purge cycle. We see this with other people who will say things like, “I need a drink.” They are allowing their feelings to rule their decisions. I have made many poor choices because I thought that my FEELINGS were right, rather than testing them and seeing how they measured up.
When we ARE:
Angry
BE ANGRY, but do not relinquish yourself to all your anger and don't do anything crazy.
So we CAN be angry, but what we DO with it matters. I still get angry, but I tell myself you can handle this and don't take it out on others. You can replace “my saying” with whatever you struggle with. You can control your emotions if you try.
Lonely
Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified to be alone. You must enjoy your own company and love yourself before you can have a healthy relationship with others.
Anxious
We don’t have to hang on to that yucky-ness of anxiety. Talk about it and relinquish it to others who care about you, I’m so thankful I have somewhere to put it rather than wear it around all day and be miserable.
The best news is that we can CHOOSE to still do the right thing, even if it FEELS wrong.
When you are in the heat of the intense FEELINGS, call out to a loved one for their strength to overcome. Don't be scared to ask for help.
I know this has helped me a lot - asking for help and confiding in people I love!
Big Override Buttons,
Kelly
Also, I can feel about 20 different ways about the same thing in a single day. This a clue that my feelings are that reliable. It reminds me of that old saying, “feelings are fickle”
(Def. of Fickle from Dictionary.com: unstable, unsteady, variable, capricious, fitful).
For example, when somone is really sick with bulimia, and they experience any one of these feelings—they send them into a desperate binge and purge cycle. We see this with other people who will say things like, “I need a drink.” They are allowing their feelings to rule their decisions. I have made many poor choices because I thought that my FEELINGS were right, rather than testing them and seeing how they measured up.
When we ARE:
Angry
BE ANGRY, but do not relinquish yourself to all your anger and don't do anything crazy.
So we CAN be angry, but what we DO with it matters. I still get angry, but I tell myself you can handle this and don't take it out on others. You can replace “my saying” with whatever you struggle with. You can control your emotions if you try.
Lonely
Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified to be alone. You must enjoy your own company and love yourself before you can have a healthy relationship with others.
Anxious
We don’t have to hang on to that yucky-ness of anxiety. Talk about it and relinquish it to others who care about you, I’m so thankful I have somewhere to put it rather than wear it around all day and be miserable.
The best news is that we can CHOOSE to still do the right thing, even if it FEELS wrong.
When you are in the heat of the intense FEELINGS, call out to a loved one for their strength to overcome. Don't be scared to ask for help.
I know this has helped me a lot - asking for help and confiding in people I love!
Big Override Buttons,
Kelly
Monday, July 11, 2011
My Favorite Things For July!!
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drum roll please......
Here I have the my June Favorite things...from nail polish and strips tp fav eye shadow palettes and phone!
www.iviscents.com
Girl Powder Lip Gloss:
http://girlpowder.myshopify.com/products/girl-powder-active-lip-gloss
Nailtini Cocktail Napkins - natural nail removers-
http://www.tinibeauty.com/products/the_mani_pedi_bar_cocktail_napkins.cfm
Leopard Nail Sticker Decal Polish Strips from Sephora and OPI:
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P288816
Roller Girl Nail Polish Set from Urban Decay:http://www.urbandecay.com/rollergirl-nail-kit/301,default,pd.html?dwvar_301_c...
Urban Decay Naked Palette:
http://www.urbandecay.com/naked-palette-eyeshadow/245,default,pd.html
LipSurgeance Lip Stains:
http://tartecosmetics.com/tarte-item-lipsurgence-natural-matte-lip-tint
BEN NYE GLAM PALETTE ESP-954
(this palette is a beauty investments! But the size of the shadows is huge and you get 12 so that's only about $5.80 per shadow..and they are so amazingly pigmented and completely MATTE...no sparkle, shimmer, or frost at all!!) My sister and cousin both have these and said they don't even need to use any other eyeshadows!
I found some in the US here:
http://www.sillyfarm.com/store/index.php?p=product&id=4296&parent=728
for my UK lovies, you can get them here:
http://www.performerszone.com/acatalog/copy_of_Lips__Eyes__Cheeks.html
Benefit Cream Shadow in Birthday Suit:
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P181807
Make-Up Forever Aqua Lip Liners in 8c (red), 16c (hot pink fuschia), 18c (coral), 17c (bright orange):
http://www.makeupforever.com/products/lips/lip-liner/aqua-lip.html
drum roll please......
Here I have the my June Favorite things...from nail polish and strips tp fav eye shadow palettes and phone!
www.iviscents.com
Girl Powder Lip Gloss:
http://girlpowder.myshopify.com/products/girl-powder-active-lip-gloss
Nailtini Cocktail Napkins - natural nail removers-
http://www.tinibeauty.com/products/the_mani_pedi_bar_cocktail_napkins.cfm
Leopard Nail Sticker Decal Polish Strips from Sephora and OPI:
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P288816
Roller Girl Nail Polish Set from Urban Decay:http://www.urbandecay.com/rollergirl-nail-kit/301,default,pd.html?dwvar_301_c...
Urban Decay Naked Palette:
http://www.urbandecay.com/naked-palette-eyeshadow/245,default,pd.html
LipSurgeance Lip Stains:
http://tartecosmetics.com/tarte-item-lipsurgence-natural-matte-lip-tint
BEN NYE GLAM PALETTE ESP-954
(this palette is a beauty investments! But the size of the shadows is huge and you get 12 so that's only about $5.80 per shadow..and they are so amazingly pigmented and completely MATTE...no sparkle, shimmer, or frost at all!!) My sister and cousin both have these and said they don't even need to use any other eyeshadows!
I found some in the US here:
http://www.sillyfarm.com/store/index.php?p=product&id=4296&parent=728
for my UK lovies, you can get them here:
http://www.performerszone.com/acatalog/copy_of_Lips__Eyes__Cheeks.html
Benefit Cream Shadow in Birthday Suit:
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P181807
Make-Up Forever Aqua Lip Liners in 8c (red), 16c (hot pink fuschia), 18c (coral), 17c (bright orange):
http://www.makeupforever.com/products/lips/lip-liner/aqua-lip.html
URBAN DECAY "SWEET AS CANDY" DEAL OF THE DAY ALERT!!!!
GET 25% off EVERYTHING AT URBAN DECAY
until July 10th,
with this FRIENDS & FAMILY code:
FFSUMMER11
click here for a "pretty saving" spree:
Enjoy,
LOVE KELLY!
How To Get Rid of Mosquito Bites!
It's that time of year again!
Rule #1: DON'T SHAVE A MOSQUITO BITE OFF!!!!
This was a total accident....I forgot to be careful around my mosquito bite!
So here's some DIY Mosquito Bite Soothing Recipes:
(the nasty source....get your proboscis away from me!)
If you have ever been a "blood-buffet" for mosquitos, and didn't realize you had hung your OPEN for breakfast-lunch-dinner sign to all pesky mosquitos, and have some beyond itchy bites, here's some remedies!
HOME REMEDIES FOR MOSQUITO BITES:
(TRY ONE TRY ALL!)
WHAT I USED LAST NIGHT (when I was about to scratch my skin off!)
Mix a little paste of water and Baking Soda. Cover mosquito bite. Then I put a band-aid on top to make sure it didn't come off.
Not only did it stop the itching but it made the redness and swelling go away! No itching yet and it's been all night and I took a shower.
Other All Natural Mosquito Bite Remedies:
(it's at least worth a try!)
SALT-
simply moisten the area and rub salt on bite area
-people say it stops itching immediately-
ONION-
A freshly cut onion, quickly applied to a sting will prevent swelling and redness, and stop the pain. Onions have anti-microbial properties- even good for blemishes. But it's the same reason why I don't eat raw onions that have been sitting out or at salad bars, anymore. Onions absorb bacteria and odors. People even cut onions and leave them out in rooms where people are sick, to naturally absorb all the virus.
WITCH HAZEL & WATER-
you can try using Witch Hazel instead of water to make the paste with Baking Soda.
APPLE CIDER VINEGAR-
Rub Apple Cider Vinegar directly onto bites.
TEA TREE OIL & ALOE VERA-
mix the two together and cover the bite area. The mixture will soothe bug bites, rashes and help prevent infection.
TOOTHPASTE-
but it only works if you use the right toothpaste...it should be one of the "white" paste looking types (not a clear gel kind). It will help remove the inflammation and itch.
*put a band-aid on top to make sure you don't get toothpaste "crumbs" everywhere.
I'm sure there are many more...but here's just a few to help you not scratch your skin raw and get a little relief from those pesky mosquitos!
the mosquito cafe, Kelly
Monday, June 20, 2011
Changing the way you see yourself...From Hate To Love
I spent many years hating who I was. I looked in the mirror and only saw imperfect, gross, and ugly staring back at me.
Here’s the other edge to the double edge sword of “hating yourself”—which is that you hate everybody else too. This is because you can only give away what you have. All I had was hate for me, and that’s all I had to give away. I remember having a lot word vomit about a lot of people out of jealousy when younger. I am so glad I'm over that stage of my life.
So how do you stop hating yourself when you can’t buy a new life, body, eyes, thighs or whatever it is that you hate about yourself? It begins with the inside. Why? Because finding redeeming qualities and personality that stand out can make anyone beautiful. I've come across a lot of "beautiful people" with really horrible attitudes and personalities that people just hate. I have also come across people with beautiful personalities and attitudes about life who aren't attractive that seem to attract people like light to a moth. But remember this also takes believing in yourself and surrounding yourself with positive people. As well as accepting you and being the best you can be!
Remember love is blind for a reason. Not some crazy self absorbed thing, but true love is: (I know this is a bible verse (I'm an atheist), but it's still one of my favorite quotes from when I was a child)
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
This is the love that you nee to give yourself, and when you do — you are filled on the inside. And with that loving heart and new attitude towards yourself is HOW we are able to show real love to others. Because first we must give love to ourselves, then we may give of it freely to others. Until then you will have superficial relationships with lovers and friends. You'll be infused with jealousy which will cause you to gossip, hate, and be low and mean to others.
I am hoping for every pair of eyes that reads this. That you will fill yourself with love in every area of your life that has self hate, and that an attitude of gratitude wells up on the inside and restoration is done INSIDE so that you can give love on the OUTSIDE!
Find outlets - speak to someone about how you feel whether it be family, friends, or if you believe in God - confide in him. Realize that these hurt feelings and self hate need to be flushed out! Surround yourself with positive people and cut out the negative people who make you feel bad about yourself.
Just a tip what I have done for years. Everyday after I shower and still naked, I tell myself I'm beautiful over and over again in the mirror about 20 times. Then I dance to a few of my favorite songs to lift my spirits. It has helped a lot. Find what helps you!
Don't be afraid to confide your deepest feelings into someone you love - they are there to be an ear! It's okay to hurt - we all do! GOOD LUCK!
A ten gallon bucket of love,
Kelly
PS: Remember to Speak this out loud until you believe it, “I'm beautiful and deserve to be loved and I love myself!” because it’s the TRUTH!
Here’s the other edge to the double edge sword of “hating yourself”—which is that you hate everybody else too. This is because you can only give away what you have. All I had was hate for me, and that’s all I had to give away. I remember having a lot word vomit about a lot of people out of jealousy when younger. I am so glad I'm over that stage of my life.
So how do you stop hating yourself when you can’t buy a new life, body, eyes, thighs or whatever it is that you hate about yourself? It begins with the inside. Why? Because finding redeeming qualities and personality that stand out can make anyone beautiful. I've come across a lot of "beautiful people" with really horrible attitudes and personalities that people just hate. I have also come across people with beautiful personalities and attitudes about life who aren't attractive that seem to attract people like light to a moth. But remember this also takes believing in yourself and surrounding yourself with positive people. As well as accepting you and being the best you can be!
Remember love is blind for a reason. Not some crazy self absorbed thing, but true love is: (I know this is a bible verse (I'm an atheist), but it's still one of my favorite quotes from when I was a child)
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
This is the love that you nee to give yourself, and when you do — you are filled on the inside. And with that loving heart and new attitude towards yourself is HOW we are able to show real love to others. Because first we must give love to ourselves, then we may give of it freely to others. Until then you will have superficial relationships with lovers and friends. You'll be infused with jealousy which will cause you to gossip, hate, and be low and mean to others.
I am hoping for every pair of eyes that reads this. That you will fill yourself with love in every area of your life that has self hate, and that an attitude of gratitude wells up on the inside and restoration is done INSIDE so that you can give love on the OUTSIDE!
Find outlets - speak to someone about how you feel whether it be family, friends, or if you believe in God - confide in him. Realize that these hurt feelings and self hate need to be flushed out! Surround yourself with positive people and cut out the negative people who make you feel bad about yourself.
Just a tip what I have done for years. Everyday after I shower and still naked, I tell myself I'm beautiful over and over again in the mirror about 20 times. Then I dance to a few of my favorite songs to lift my spirits. It has helped a lot. Find what helps you!
Don't be afraid to confide your deepest feelings into someone you love - they are there to be an ear! It's okay to hurt - we all do! GOOD LUCK!
A ten gallon bucket of love,
Kelly
PS: Remember to Speak this out loud until you believe it, “I'm beautiful and deserve to be loved and I love myself!” because it’s the TRUTH!
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Cloud-spiration
The other day I walking to the living room... and this sunset "treat-for-eyes" stopped me in my steps and made me think. I started thinking about how the sunset doesn't look like this without the clouds. It's just plain and grey. BUT....with the clouds, the sun has something to soak up and reflect this beautiful color and light. And that is how our lives are too! "without the clouds in our life, we wouldn't have beautiful sunsets of inspiration and beauty!
No matter what is going on in your life:
Relationship problems, heartbreak, loss. financial troubles, feelings of hopelessness, loneliness, feeling out of contro,l family problems or whatever they case may be! Be encouraged by these stories of "storm clouds" in people's lives, that have really been beautiful sunsets of opportunity just waiting for the sun to go down to make them shine.
A single and broke mama, who started making and selling sandwiches out of her home because she suffered from Agoraphobia...went from a former bank teller to cook at a Best Western Hotel...to the now famous, Paula Deen with a cooking empire. And she found her true love and soul mate along the way! Paula Deen suffered a lot of the things on the list.... but she didn't give up... she didn't say.."oh now I'm so alone!"...she didn't say now I don't have a husband...I can't make it. She didn't say...now I don't have a job, we're going to be homeless. NO! she put on her big girl pants... realized what she loved....COOKING... and found a way to start doing what she loved. She USED WHAT SHE GOT: she had a kitchen.. she had skills... she had a desire... she had to do something because she only had $200 to her name.. she had fear of leaving her house...but that didn't stop her! Now she has become successful because of every STORM CLOUD in her life that made the sun shine a beautiful sunset of success! AND ALL THOSE CLOUDS made for the most beautiful sunset in her life every day!!!
SO today...rejoice for the clouds...they are bringing a beautiful sunset for you! Life has a beautiful sunset waiting to sparkle success in your life....let's just be thankful for the clouds that are going to make our sunset amazing!!! From your friend with cloudiness....but waiting for them to make my sunsets beautiful, your Kelly please share this with anyone that needs to hear this (I encourage you to share it on facebook and twitter...because people always ask if it's ok...it's more than OK...I want to help change hearts...so share away!)
No matter what is going on in your life:
Relationship problems, heartbreak, loss. financial troubles, feelings of hopelessness, loneliness, feeling out of contro,l family problems or whatever they case may be! Be encouraged by these stories of "storm clouds" in people's lives, that have really been beautiful sunsets of opportunity just waiting for the sun to go down to make them shine.
A single and broke mama, who started making and selling sandwiches out of her home because she suffered from Agoraphobia...went from a former bank teller to cook at a Best Western Hotel...to the now famous, Paula Deen with a cooking empire. And she found her true love and soul mate along the way! Paula Deen suffered a lot of the things on the list.... but she didn't give up... she didn't say.."oh now I'm so alone!"...she didn't say now I don't have a husband...I can't make it. She didn't say...now I don't have a job, we're going to be homeless. NO! she put on her big girl pants... realized what she loved....COOKING... and found a way to start doing what she loved. She USED WHAT SHE GOT: she had a kitchen.. she had skills... she had a desire... she had to do something because she only had $200 to her name.. she had fear of leaving her house...but that didn't stop her! Now she has become successful because of every STORM CLOUD in her life that made the sun shine a beautiful sunset of success! AND ALL THOSE CLOUDS made for the most beautiful sunset in her life every day!!!
SO today...rejoice for the clouds...they are bringing a beautiful sunset for you! Life has a beautiful sunset waiting to sparkle success in your life....let's just be thankful for the clouds that are going to make our sunset amazing!!! From your friend with cloudiness....but waiting for them to make my sunsets beautiful, your Kelly please share this with anyone that needs to hear this (I encourage you to share it on facebook and twitter...because people always ask if it's ok...it's more than OK...I want to help change hearts...so share away!)
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