My Remy Clip-in human-hair extension review! Luxy Locks, Foxxy Locks, Pro-Extensions, HeadKandy, Euronext, Super Strands, and Hello Gorgeous

Hey everyone!  As promised I told you I would do a hair extension review after I got all my extensions. I recently ordered three different brands. Luxy Locks, Super Strands, and Head Kandy. In the past I have used Euro-next, Foxxy Locks, and pro-extensions. These are all clip-in extensions, I have used fusions and micro beads and it ruins the hair in my opinion. Plus this is cheaper and an easier way to change your look from short to medium to long.

I typically use my hair extensions for photo shoots and going out on the town. I have long hair, but not as long as I'd like or as thick. Extensions give me a different look and make me feel and look sexy in my opinion. So with out further-ado lets begin the review!

Euro-next (First extensions I have ever used) -

You can buy them at Sally's Beauty Supply

Pros:

• You can buy these from your local beauty supply store Sally Beauty Supply.


• Cheap - $100


• Quality of hair is very nice and lasts

Cons:

• Only 80 grams of hair. If you have thicker hair you will need to buy two boxes.


• The metal clips, have broken on me a few times.


• The hair does not curl well. These extensions are more for girls that prefer to wear their hair straight.


• Only comes in two lengths 14 inch and 18 inch. So if you are a girl like me that prefers 20 to 26 inches of hair this isn't for us.

Pro-Extensions:

Website: http://proextensions.com

Pros:

• Come in a variety of lengths 10", 14", 20", and 24"


• Curl well


• Free over-night shipping


• Great Customer Service


• Cost $150

Cons:

• After I washed them they were never the same and got frizzy..not good at all! So I guess just never wash them...

Foxxy Locks (Deluxe Edition 160 Grams)

Website: http://foxylocksextensions.com/

Pros:

• Great price for how much hair you get! I paid about 130 for a 160 grams of hair! That's a lot of hair!


• They come in a variety of colors that are very authentic to real hair color, especially the blonde section. It's hard to find a good blonde that matches dyed/highlighted hair.


• Great hair quality - so soft - curls/styles well


• They offer all the way up to 215 grams of hair


• The girl that makes them has a great youtube channel for tutorials on different ways to utilize the extensions.

Cons:

• They shrank on me about 8 months..I bought the 20 inch and they were about as long as my natural hair which is a few inches past my shoulder..so you couldn't really tell I was wearing them at all. NOTE:  You are supposed to replace most extensions after 6 months, but some have lasted me a year or more. I just thought the quality of the hair would last longer. But still great review overall!

Luxy Locks: (20 inch 160 Grams)

Website: http://luxyhair.com


Pros:

• Their affordable


• Customer Service writes back either same day or the next day.


• They refunded my money.


• The owners are sisters "Luxy sisters" on youtube. They have great tutorials and videos. The extensions they have look great. Which is why I bought them. They just must look better in darker colors, cause the blonde was not great.

Cons:

• The blonde extensions I bought looked totally different on the website and video the Luxy sisters had on their youtube swatches video. The hair looked Barbie Doll like and the color was horrible. Barbie Doll Yellow!


• They have a tester strip pouch, that I assumed you could open. Cause obviously the other side you can't open or you can't return it. It has a seal on it that states such. Well I opened the tester strip to make sure I liked it. After inspecting the tester strip one of the clips was half way off and as I mention the color/texture/look/thickness isn't what I expected at all. So I decided to return the extensions with much headache! They almost weren't going to refund me the money, because I opened the tester strip side? Umm what's the point of sending a tester strip if you can't open it? There was no mention of this on the website or on the package itself. Just for full hair extensions themselves. Mind you I had to use my own money to send the extensions back by FED EX which was $30.00 and it took forever for them to say they got the package. Even though it said on tracking they had it. SO ANNOYING. They did eventually refund me the money, but I will never or would never shop with them again.

HeadKandy: (24-26 inch 180 Grams)

Website: http://headkandy.com

Pros:

• GREAT Hair Quality/so thick


• Styles well


• comes in 14 to 26 inches (awesome!)


• Great Clips


• I don't even use all the hair they gave me, so when one extension goes bad I can always change it out for the ones I'm not using.


• Great customer service/fast shipping


• Great colors - the blonde looks so natural!


• Great price for the quality and how much hair you get! I paid $215 all together

Cons:

• None at this time

Super Strands: (20 inch 90 - 100 grams)

Website: http://superstrands.com

• Great hair quality/love the color


• Style awesomely


• Great price only paid about $85


• I am going to keep this in the positive, I wish I would of bought the deluxe set

Cons:

• Girls with thinner hair wont want to use these, cause of the clips. They are large and wont work well for thinner hair. However the larger clips believe it or not, set better on the head and conceal better.

Hello Gorgeous Exensions: ( 24 inch Deluxe 285 Grams of hair)

Website: http://www.shophellogorgeoushairextensions.com/

• Custom made for you!


• Great price for the hair quality and being custom made.


• Style/curl well


• Soooooo much hair! 285 grams of hair is nuts..


• Come in all different length, I think the longest length is 34 inches


• I paid about $400 and don't use all the parts cause it's just so much hair


• Looks Very natural..

Cons:

• It's a lot of money for a lot of pocket books.


• A long wait time, since they are custom made. So you will want to order these a month or so out.


• Customer service isn't the greatest, but she is a one woman team pretty much. So in many ways it's understandable.

Alright guys these are my honest reviews on every hair extension I have ever used and bought. I hope this helps you in purchasing your set of extensions. Extensions can be so much fun to use and really change your look and give you awesome sex appeal. If you can't afford Hello Gorgeous or HeadKand, I would suggest Foxy Locks and Super Strands. Both Great hair extensions. GOOD LUCK!

P.S. Please let me know which ones you have used and liked or if you buy one of the ones I suggested. I would love to know what you think!

Lots of Love and Luck

Kelly

Picture of me with the HeadKandy Extensions in



Pictures of the Luxy Locks Package









 

Side By Side - Luxy Extension on the left and HeadKandy on the right - Taken with my iphone - You can't tell how brassy yellow it really is, but trust me its bad



The day I got my HeadKandy Extensions



I'm wearing Foxy Lock Extensions here



I'm wearing Hello Gorgeous Extensions here



I'm wearing Super Strands Extensions here



 

So you see I wear a lot of different extensions...

This is my natural hair





Have a great day everyone!

 

A great read for all women into men or raising a boy into a man :)

 

I have to honestly say that this book is a MUST read for any woman who is married to a man, dating a man, wanting a man or has a little man she is raising of her own!

I’ve read other books on relationships, the different needs of men and women, but by far this little book is a power packed page turner!

Everything in the book is “real” stuff. She interviewed over a thousand guys and then gives you the results of her research…she asks stuff that your man probably won’t answer truthfully, even if you tried to ask. Ex: what exactly happened in their head after that mini skirt walked in front of them…and it’s based on statistics so you get an understanding of what the majority of men thought, and what the few minority had to say.

And I like to use President Reagan's line "trust but verify." So I read a few of the questions and results to my own man, and he agreed her research and conclusions. This alone is astonishing because my man usually doesn't agree with much. And what was surprising to me was how much I DIDN'T know about how men think, after all I've been married to one for 3 years, you'd think I would have picked some clues up by then--nope! But thanks to Mrs. Feldhahn, I'm getting clued in!

I know you’ll be blessed by this book as I have been, and the man (or men) in your life will thank you for “finally getting it” puns totally intended! Ha ha ha!

Happy Reading,

Kelly

My Favorite Things For July!!

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drum roll please......
Here I have the my June Favorite things...from nail polish and strips tp fav eye shadow palettes and phone!



www.iviscents.com

Girl Powder Lip Gloss:
http://girlpowder.myshopify.com/products/girl-powder-active-lip-gloss

Nailtini Cocktail Napkins - natural nail removers-
http://www.tinibeauty.com/products/the_mani_pedi_bar_cocktail_napkins.cfm



Leopard Nail Sticker Decal Polish Strips from Sephora and OPI:
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P288816

Roller Girl Nail Polish Set from Urban Decay:http://www.urbandecay.com/rollergirl-nail-kit/301,default,pd.html?dwvar_301_c...


Urban Decay Naked Palette:
http://www.urbandecay.com/naked-palette-eyeshadow/245,default,pd.html



LipSurgeance Lip Stains:
http://tartecosmetics.com/tarte-item-lipsurgence-natural-matte-lip-tint

BEN NYE GLAM PALETTE ESP-954
(this palette is a beauty investments! But the size of the shadows is huge and you get 12 so that's only about $5.80 per shadow..and they are so amazingly pigmented and completely MATTE...no sparkle, shimmer, or frost at all!!) My sister and cousin both have these and said they don't even need to use any other eyeshadows!
I found some in the US here:
http://www.sillyfarm.com/store/index.php?p=product&id=4296&parent=728
for my UK lovies, you can get them here:
http://www.performerszone.com/acatalog/copy_of_Lips__Eyes__Cheeks.html

Benefit Cream Shadow in Birthday Suit:
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P181807



Make-Up Forever Aqua Lip Liners in 8c (red), 16c (hot pink fuschia), 18c (coral), 17c (bright orange):

http://www.makeupforever.com/products/lips/lip-liner/aqua-lip.html

URBAN DECAY "SWEET AS CANDY" DEAL OF THE DAY ALERT!!!!

GET 25% off EVERYTHING AT URBAN DECAY

until July 10th,

with this FRIENDS & FAMILY code:

FFSUMMER11

click here for a "pretty saving" spree:

www.urbandecay.com

Enjoy,

LOVE KELLY!

How To Get Rid of Mosquito Bites!

It's that time of year again!

Rule #1: DON'T SHAVE A MOSQUITO BITE OFF!!!!
This was a total accident....I forgot to  be careful around my mosquito bite!

So here's some DIY Mosquito Bite Soothing Recipes:

(the nasty source....get your proboscis away from me!)

If you have ever been a "blood-buffet" for mosquitos, and didn't realize you had hung your OPEN for breakfast-lunch-dinner sign to all pesky mosquitos, and have some beyond itchy bites, here's some remedies!

HOME REMEDIES FOR MOSQUITO BITES:

(TRY ONE TRY ALL!)

WHAT I USED LAST NIGHT (when I was about to scratch my skin off!)
Mix a little paste of water and Baking Soda. Cover mosquito bite. Then I put a band-aid on top to make sure it didn't come off.
Not only did it stop the itching but it made the redness and swelling go away! No itching yet and it's been all night and I took a shower.

Other All Natural Mosquito Bite Remedies:
(it's at least worth a try!)


SALT-
simply moisten the area and rub salt on bite area
-people say it stops itching immediately-

ONION-
A freshly cut onion, quickly applied to a sting will prevent swelling and redness, and  stop the pain. Onions have anti-microbial properties- even good for blemishes. But it's the same reason why I don't eat raw onions that have been sitting out or at salad bars, anymore. Onions absorb bacteria and odors. People even cut onions and leave them out in rooms where people are sick, to naturally absorb all the virus.

WITCH HAZEL & WATER-
you can try using Witch Hazel instead of water to make the paste with Baking Soda.

APPLE CIDER VINEGAR-
Rub Apple Cider Vinegar directly onto bites.


TEA TREE OIL & ALOE VERA-
mix the two together and cover the bite area. The mixture will soothe bug bites, rashes and help prevent infection.

TOOTHPASTE-
but it only works if you use the right toothpaste...it should be one of the "white" paste looking types (not a clear gel kind). It will help remove the inflammation and itch.
*put a band-aid on top to make sure you don't get toothpaste "crumbs" everywhere.

I'm sure there are many more...but here's just a few to help you not scratch your skin raw and get a little relief from those pesky mosquitos!

the mosquito cafe, Kelly

Cloud-spiration

The other day I walking to the living room... and this sunset "treat-for-eyes" stopped me in my steps and made me think.  I started thinking about how the sunset doesn't look like this without the clouds. It's just plain and grey. BUT....with the clouds, the sun has something to soak up and reflect this beautiful color and light. And that is how our lives are too! "without the clouds in our life, we wouldn't have beautiful sunsets of inspiration and beauty!

No matter what is going on in your life:

Relationship problems, heartbreak, loss. financial troubles, feelings of hopelessness, loneliness, feeling out of contro,l family problems or whatever they case may be!  Be encouraged by these stories of "storm clouds" in people's lives, that have really been beautiful sunsets of opportunity just waiting for the sun to go down to make them shine.

A single and broke mama, who started making and selling sandwiches out of her home because she suffered from Agoraphobia...went from a former bank teller to cook at a Best Western Hotel...to the now famous, Paula Deen with a cooking empire. And she found her true love and soul mate along the way! Paula Deen suffered a lot of the things on the list.... but she didn't give up... she didn't say.."oh now I'm so alone!"...she didn't say now I don't have a husband...I can't make it. She didn't say...now I don't have a job, we're going to be homeless. NO! she put on her big girl pants... realized what she loved....COOKING... and found a way to start doing what she loved.  She USED WHAT SHE GOT: she had a kitchen.. she had skills... she had a desire... she had to do something because she only had $200 to her name.. she had fear of leaving her house...but that didn't stop her! Now she has become successful because of every STORM CLOUD in her life that made the sun shine a beautiful sunset of success! AND ALL THOSE CLOUDS made for the most beautiful sunset in her life every day!!!

SO today...rejoice for the clouds...they are bringing a beautiful sunset for you! Life has a beautiful sunset waiting to sparkle success in your life....let's just be thankful for the clouds that are going to make our sunset amazing!!! From your friend with cloudiness....but waiting for them to make my sunsets beautiful, your Kelly please share this with anyone that needs to hear this (I encourage you to share it on facebook and twitter...because people always ask if it's ok...it's more than OK...I want to help change hearts...so share away!)

Emotions!

 

Emotions are our own, not anybody else's! (I imagine this is what our emotions look like, lots of different intensities and shades--I have no scientific evidence ha ha ha!) We all have emotions and I'm sure you are already aware of them. Our emotions are what go bananas when we don't get our "way," think that we have been cheated or short-changed in some way, are hurt, feel lonely, surge with jealousy and basically are how we react to most things in life.

Here's the bombshell. These "emotions" can be harnessed. You don't have to fly off the handle when someone has said something hurtful about or to you. You CAN and also HAVE, the freedom to CHOOSE how you will respond. I spent MANY years, blaming others for how I "had" to respond. I would blame friends who did something hurtful to me--as WHY I had to "get them back" or plot ways to hurt them just as they had done to me. This is a very emotionally based way to live. And it's also very exhausting, depressing, lonely and a scared way to live your life. Believe me, "emotionally" responding to every little thing and allowing your emotions to run wild at any given moment will leave you feeling worse than the meanest person you've ever met!

So what do we do with raging emotions?  How we should respond when we are hurt? Rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed!  I know it may be hard at first but with practice and determination anything is possible.  If anything at least you will be less frequent with your rages! Clothes yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.   You will be so much more happier and so much more productive everyday! We are all FREE to choose how we will respond! Respond with a thankful heart that you are alive and have a chance to do something great for yourself and others! Respond to others with compassion, kindness, love and forgiveness. You will see your relationships will grow stronger and you will grow happier.

So next time you are faced with a jerky person, difficult circumstances or just life not working out as you had planned...stop and think for a minute. Sometimes I have to tell myself, "Kelly, just stop it. Let's put our raging emotions on hold for a minute and ask what response be the best and make me a good person and stronger and realizing being negative never helps anything!?" That's a "tune" changer if I ever heard one! Ha ha ha! It changes my whiney, hurt, mad, "why me" type of emotional response EVERY TIME. And at the end of the day, I'm ALWAYS glad when I choose positivity over negativity!  I feel better, sleep better and enjoy peace rather than being tortured by my own wild emotions. You too can become an emotional wrangler if you give it a true shot! Emotions are part of who we are, but they should never be allowed to run totally wild. I'm done with the days that my emotions ruled me, and I'm learning more everyday how I can better wrangle them into submission! Remember that emotions ALWAYS need some sort of harness to head in the right direction. And the best harness is positivity! Huge love, KELLY

Bridal Make Up or Everyday your choice :)

Are you always a bridesmaid or maybe now the bride?!?
Second in importance to a little box with a ring....is a big box full of wedding make-up (or ANY day) perfection!
the URBAN DECAY Urban Bride "box o' wonders"...
is the perfect gift for a bride or any girl that is single-and-proud and just wants this awesome set!!!

the good you get:
• Razor Sharp Ultra-Definition Finishing Powder to diffuse lines for a flawless airbrushed look.
(I used this on set a few days ago. It's translucent so it goes on everyone from pale to dark skin!)
• Urban Decay’s best-selling original formula Eyeshadow Primer Potion (full-sized)
*Supercurl Curling Mascara to keep her eyes looking fresh. -I love this and have used this.
• Lip Junkie Lipgloss in Midnight Cowboy to give bare and lightly colored lips a sensual, come-hither shine or electrify darker lipcolor with more texture.
• All Nighter Long-Lasting Makeup Setting Spray to ensure her look stays put for 16 incredible hours.
• Marshmallow Sparkling Lickable Body Powder - I guess is more for the honeymoon. But for me, maybe I'll just pour it on top of my ice cream! ha ha

Check this deal out: each thing you get comes out to be only about $7! The whole set is $42...
awesome deal that's the same prices as drugstore make-up!

This is a beautiful deal though for any girl...ring or not!
These gift sets are a great way to save you money and getting more for your buck.

I love make up more than wedding cake....your Kelly

A crafting how to

DIY FLOWER BALL!

I love Do-It-Yourself craft projects...
so it's time to fire up your hot glue guns...
hunt down some fake flowers...
and grab some styrofoam balls...because we're gonna make some romantic fantastic flower ball decorations to bring some girly, beauty to your desk, dresser, bathroom or bookshelf!
These are adorable in little girls rooms and in big girls rooms...mine lives on my dresser!

WHAT YOU NEED:

1. Styrofoam Ball

(any size you want)

 You can get these at any craft store.

2. Hot Glue Gun & Lots of Glue Sticks

I got my Zebra Print Glue Gun at Michaels Crafts by ArtMinds for like $4.99

 3. Fake Flowers

(you can use a fun mixture of colors like these)

or big Peonies like these...

or you can just get a bunch of white roses like the one I have!

INSTRUCTIONS:

1. Pull off all the flower blossom from the stem

-they just pop off when you pull on them-

so you are left with a bunch of green stems that look like this.

2. Start gluing the flowers to the styrofoam ball until they cover the whole ball...
you can glue them in a circle line around the ball or just start gluing them next to each other...as long as they cover the styrofoam it doesn't matter which way you start to glue them!be careful not to burn your valuable fingertips!

AND VOILA...

your very own orb of floral-girly-ness!

smokin' glue guns...Please share if you do this project!  I would love to see - Kelly

Thanks Sean!

An awesome tatoo artist and artist I know from twitter is doing a portrait of myself and my husband.  I will show what he has done so far.  To show off his impressive talent.  Sean, on a personal note I will cherish this so.  I can't wait to have it in our bedroom.

Sean you have made me smile and brought joy to me for taking the time out and doing this creation for me.  You are so talented! I can't thank you enough

Picture below :) Hope you guys like!

Your Friend,

Kelly

Opportunities!

Have you visited Opportunity lately?

Opportunities come into our life all the time...and sometimes we think they are problems...
but little do we know they are opportunities in disguise!

You have to make the most of opportunities that come your way quickly. Sometimes an opportunity come into our lives, and if we don't act on it...we miss it.

Sometimes we look at our opportunities and think.."OH NO! This looks like a big mess! Like a big pile of poop! Lots of heartbreak, sadness or loss!"...
BUT really, if we'd look closer, be quiet...and not go calling everyone we know to complain about it....in that stillness you will see the opportunity!

Whether your heart feels broken because someone you love has hurt you, left you or cheated on you...
this could actually be a BIG OPPORTUNITY to get out of and away from a BAD relationship....and time to be free to find someone that would never imagine hurting you in ANY way!

Maybe you've lost your job! This is how so many success stories have begun, people had no where to go and nothing to lose but to start a business or finally go after their dream career. When you're at the bottom...sometimes it's the best place because you won't worry about falling on some branches when you're somewhere in the middle...and you will BRAVELY and FEARLESSLY go after something with URGENCY because you have to. If you were making good money at a job, you might take your time and wait too long to start!
Remember: sometimes man says "YOU'RE FIRED!"....but that's right when someone or you can say, "NOW, I can HIRE YOU/MYSELF for something even greater!"

Don't let the LAND of EXCUSES cause you to lose your map to OPPORTUNITY TOWN!

I know of more people who the world considers handicapped...that DO MORE than "capable-bodied" people ever even think of doing!

These so called "handi-capped" people don't let anything, any excuse stop them from anything.
Nick  Vujicic was born without arm and legs and has accomplished more than people who have 2 more arms and legs than he needs to do anything!

Remember you have everything you need and nothing to feel bad about!


And don't worry about the "critics"...from strangers to ones you love come out of the woodwork and offer their "free opinion" about you or your situation.

People who don't dare go after anything in their own lives...have all the free time in the world to offer their opinion, criticism, and discouragement. Don't waste your time listening to them...you have a big, bright future to go after!

People always have bad things to say about someone who's doing something with their life. And it infuriates so called "highly intelligent" or educated people to see someone that isn't as "smart" or educated as they are doing greater things, inventing more amazing inventions, and being successful at anything.

Be an opportunity seeker...hunt for giant "diamonds of opportunity" in what feels like a big pile of poop that just landed in your life!

And remember:
the most beautiful flowers grow out of the most stinky, manure!

Start looking for the diamonds of hope today no matter how awful the package looks that just showed up in your life!

And remember, we are sent opportunities.....we have to take them or the opportunities are going to set sail without us!

Get out your map to OPPORTUNITY TOWN.....huge love and diamond hunting...your friend Kelly

Please feel free to pass this on, post this, share this with anyone that could use a little encouragement right now...and send a little more hope out into the world!

Hormones!

I couldn't live with out my hormones, but boy can they be downers.  Tonight has been one of those days where I have just felt ugly and shitty all day.  No matter how hard I tried to fix myself up, look at myself in the mirror and say I'm beautiful, or have my husbands reassurance and love telling me how beautiful I am.

Sometimes hormones just put you in a mood of despair.  I usually take St. John's Wort to counteract these moods, but I have been forgetting to take them.  I know it upsets hubby to see me like this, he always worries he did or said something wrong that day.  But he didn't, the fact he holds me and tells me how beautiful I am really helps.

But it's like the levels our just fighting you to be sad!  I'm barely ever sad or upset.  I always try to look on the brighter side of life, but lord knows you can't be happy all the damn time.  So I let out a big cry tonight.  Which helped!  Sometimes I look in the mirror and see the ugliest creature known to man.

Sometimes I look at myself and think how could anyone think I'm attractive.  But ladies and gentleman I am here to tell you these are normal feelings.  If there was no sadness we wouldn't know the true power of happiness.

Hormones make us soft and transform us, but they also mess with our levels.  So girls the next time you are feeling way low.  It may not be you necessarily.  It could be your hormones playing an evil joke on you.  I suggest a cry fest, and call a friend or lover to make you laugh.

I thought I'd share this, because I always get the you lead such an awesome life.  You are always so happy.  Yadda, Yadda, Yadda lol

I'm here to tell you..I cry at least every few weeks.  And I feel ugly at least every 3 weeks lol

I love you guys - Kelly

Today is my anniversary!

My husband and I have been together 3 years and it's just crazy to think that.  I will admit on other days it feels like we were together for 20 years!  He is my best friend, lover, and yes we fight here and there...but at the end of the day we realize how important we are to each other.

It's really made me grow up and realize relationships take sacrifice, dedication, patience, understanding, forgiveness, caring, communication, and did I mention patience and forgiveness?  If you love someone you must forgive.  If you love someone you need to listen and hear them out, before you just argue your point.  If you love someone you must sacrifice and work as a unit.

Like any couple we have had our ups and downs but the last year and a half we have been soaring high.  I think it's because we both turned 29 this year, and we also realize how lonely our lives would be with out each other.  I think our biggest issue was my past life in the porn industry, and he has now accepted it.  Now that isn't an issue!  Thank goodness!

I don't know what he has planned today, but whatever it is I will love it.  Due to I know he will put his heart into it.  I don't need fancy shmancy gifts or diamonds.  I have never been that girl.  As long as I have him by my side I'm truly happy.  My life is brighter and more stable, because of him.  Now when I lay in bed at night I know I only have to reach a few inches and I have him there.  I know when I cry or upset I have him there to lean on.

I love my husband even more on this special day..and as I write this..I'm tearing up. GRR I'm such a girl! lol But I hope everyone has a great weekend! All my love and hope for each and every one of you - Kelly

Family Ties!

Tonight we visited my hubbie's mom, because he wasn't feeling well today (what a baby lol).  However, it was complicated by his mother and him having a huge fight that's a recurring argument in their lives (ack).  Know, however, I am very proud of him for not blowing up (he has a short fuse) and for comforting her.  They have sort of a destructive past life, due to her inability to get over the fact  that his father ran out on them so early on.  He was her one true love.  I'm glad I can help stabilize their relationship and start a new family.  I'm glad my hubby has become more aware of not blaming his mother for everything.  It takes two to be a parent, and he doesn't fully understand where his mother comes from.  However it's not something a child should need to understand.  I'm just glad they are talking to each other calmly and admitting each others faults.  And not screaming past one another.  I love my mother-in-law and I love my husband.  I know sometimes she has a hard time dealing with the fact that I'm a transsexual, but at the end of the day she always tells me you are so beautiful and sweet and helpful.  I couldn't ask for a better women in my sons life.

So I am super sorry about the cam4 show tonight - we weren't at our best.  But we all talked more tonight and are going to bed happy and a family!
Love you guys!

Kelly!

Tried my new hair extensions

I got my new hair extensions finally and decided to try them out!  I will take better pics soon :) The dress I am wearing a fan bought me :)

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Proud to be Transsexual

You know how many people make the good and the bad lists.  I am going to do this for the reasons I have always come to the conclusion why I am glad I'm a transsexual.  See if you can come up with your own lists.  There is of course bad reasons, but the good outweighs it for me.  I find many focus too much on the negativity, and like playing the victim card.  I have never been one of those types and don't ever plan on being that way.  Playing the victim only weakens you, and turns people away from you.  There's a point when people just don't feel sorry for you anymore.  It makes them want to turn against you!  Nor does it inspire anyone!!  I'm a transsexual and I get annoyed with those people and the transsexuals who do that crap!

I have never liked pity either.  I hate when people say "Wow, your life must of been so hard", "I'm sorry", "It must be hard being like you", and so on.  Umm NO not really!  GRRR!!

1) I transitioned young (age 12) it was a big decision to make.  It challenged my maturity, self-awareness, confidence, and the people around me.  I am thankful for this experience.  It's made me more thankful for my family who supported me, the friends who stood behind me, challenged me to change people's minds, and gave me a will to be me.

I truly believe if I hadn't of transitioned at the age I did.  I would of been a shell of a person.  Unhappy, mad at the world, and held fear inside my very being.

I also believe if I had been born a genetic female.  I wouldn't have the wisdom, confidence, or backbone I gained from being a transsexual.  I probably would not think outside the box like I do now. I might be one of the people who didn't understand minorities or people who are different.  I may be a brain dead wannabe like so many are today.

2) I'm happy to be different than others. Otherwise I would take this life, my friends, and normalcy for granted. I cherish the normal life I've been able to live.  I cherish the friends I've made, the family who stands beside me and accepts me, and the understanding and wisdom of myself and things around me.  Something I wouldn't of had otherwise.

3) It challenged my confidence giving me a backbone.  A backbone that has pushed me to fight for my community.  Go to high school as a girl, when kids can be the meanest.  My backbone has saved my life and inspired others.

4) It showed me true cruelty, and true kindness.  Something many don't see till they are older.

5) It showed me who my true alliances were and the love of a family.

6) It's given me an understanding of both sexes.

7) It's tested my patience, making me a lot harder to blow a gasket.

8) It's made me work harder for my looks, and be thankful for them when I achieved them. (many take for granted)

9) It's taught me empathy, compassion, and understanding. Something many don't have, nor will they ever have.

10) Last but not least, it's taught me to be thankful for the freedom I have to be me.  We take freedom for granted.

Let the tears fall!

I was eating lunch today...and even as my friend was making a joke that made me laugh...a  song came on by Bette Midler...and "safely hidden" from my friend on the phone...tears slipped down my face, as I listened to the song ...and I remember being not even in my teen years, and her saying this is our song and whenever you hear it think of your mommy...my heart just hurt. And I wanted to go back to that time again...I remember shopping with my mom that day for school clothes (the first year I lived as a girl age 12)....

Last night, I checked my phone to see a text from my sister about my mom...and
this song...in combination with some other things going on in my life...made tears fall like rain...but hopefully it washed my heart a little...

Something my momma used to say when she was alive...

"Those who sow (work) in tears..shall reap (take in, receive) in joy!"...this was like the biggest hug to my spirit...

We get these thoughts that try to discourage us...break our spirit...steal our joy....

and we MUST...must....be diligent and courageous in our thinking...not letting these pains and hurts of life...try to stop us...and kidnap our joy...

it never fails...as soon as you start working hard for something..going after your dream...trying to quit a bad habit...repairing an emotional wound....
it seems as if a sign that says "please attack me...make this harder than it is"...comes on...and next thing you know your doubting your ability and your strength...

I cried today a lot....and as no one answered their phone to talk with my "lonely" little self...I had no options left but to listen to a cd....I put in a cd of mine....and the voice boomed through the speakers right to my heart....and made me feel hope again..it was like it was saying...
NEVER GIVE UP!!!! Never let your "down" thoughts keep you down....

if you are hurting.....just know every tear is precious....and it is most definitely watering the beautiful flowers of blessings that are just waiting to spring up!!!

huge, huge love from my heart to you......and please feel the hug I'm sending too....I know I could always use an extra "hug though"......

Your Friend, Kelly

PUT YOUR CART AWAY :P

Live a better life...by doing small things that other people don't...
like putting your shopping cart back....picking up the hanger that fell off as you look for the right size pants....

I was at Forever 21 (a cheap & trendy clothing store)...and I was dropping hangers of pants on the floor...
and me...who worked in a clothing store, many moons ago (at a Victoria's Secret, TJ MAXX)...would hate it when people would knock stuff off, and not even have the decency to pick it up- it was their fault it fell! ha ha ha
So as I picked up all the clothes I dropped...the sales girl was amazed AND appreciative...she said, "oh thank you so much! Nobody picks up anything usually!"...
The little things like this, are what make our character...
even if no one is looking, I put my shopping cart back in the shopping cart "cage"...(and heck, you'll burn a few extra calories! ha ha ha)...

When you go the extra mile with the small things...in life...you'll be amazed at the "big" changes you'll start to notice in life...

after all, it's the little things that matter...and help make the big things amazing!

huge love and remember to put your carts back! ha ha ha ha
Kelly the cart girl

Expensive Cosmetics Made Cheap!

Face Primer -

In a container mix 3 teaspoons of Aloe Vera, 3 teaspoons of moisturizer then MIX IT - then add some of your choice of foundation till it's pigmented... DONE - you have yourself a great primer before you put on your concealer/foundation

Eyeshadow Primer -

In a container mix 1 part body butter and 1 part concealer of your choice...mix well with a toothpick!  Abracadabra a great Eyeshadow primer!

Lip Gloss -

There are two ways to make lip gloss!

1)  In a container mix vaseline and the eyeshadow/blush flakes of your choice till it gets the pigment you want... You only use the flakes from when your brush it...

2) Melt some of your fav lipstick that are leftover and mix it with some vaseline...BAM lipgloss!

 

Cream Eyeshadow -

In a container mix face moisturizer and the eyeshadow flakes of your choice and mix mix mix - wallah cream eyeshadow!

Eye Make Up Remover -

Take a container and using 50/50 of olive oil and witch hazel ( I like using more witch hazel than olive oil) shake it - then take a cotton ball and wash that eyeshadow off girls!

Make-up/eye make-up Remover -

This can wash off all your make up!  Take 3 teaspoons of vaseline - 3 teaspoons of aloe vera - 4 drops of lavender oil MIX MIX MIX - and then take a napkin/kleenex/papertowel and dip it in the mix and get that MAKE UP OFF!!

 

I hope this helps - I will post more make up tips later!!  Your Friend, Kelly

 

My Resolutions!

 

So a few things that I am changing in my life...I am 28 now..I know that's like 80 in tranny years!  Shut UP!!  But I realize as I get older I need to take better care of my body and start working out... ( I NEVER WORKED OUT - TILL NOW!). I mean I took 12 years of dance and 8 years of gymnastics, but that was more a passion.   It didn't feel like I was working OUT!

I go to the gym now quite regularly, and still feel like a hamster on atreadmill.  BUT I'm doing it! I still do my dance work out, but I have added stairs, treadmill, and the ball to my work out routine! I want to keep my tummy toned and I don't want to be SAGGY..so I know this is my only choice!

Now I was the girl that could eat anything and I mean anything unhealthy!  I loved unhealthy food (still do) but I have also realized I have to change my diet. Then have just ONE cheat day a week! Instead of every day! LMAO!!  I know with age comes that "POT BELLY" and I don't want it! I look at my sister who is 34 and four years ago she was skinny and didn't have a double chin, and now she has a double chin and thicker..(not fat) just has a ("pot belly") and I don't want that to happen to me! So guys I'm changing my diet! I have already started!  I have been doing really well!  My hubby is a health nut so he has been so happy with my choice.  WE get in less petty arguments about food intake!

On top of that I started taking vitamins again!  You don't always get what you need out of food intake, so taking vitamins definitely helps! I'm currently taking Vitamins E, D, C, b12, collagen, St. John's wort, and fish oil and I am already feeling more energetic and healthier!

I'm gonna try my damnedest to try to maintain this to make it a HABIT!

My second resolution is writing in my blog everyday! Which so far I have.. www.secretkelly.com I have even written three blog entries in one day!  I have been lazy and just let it sit there, and got a lot of complaints from fans.  I don't like disappointing my fans, so I am going to change that!

I am going to try to stay positive and productive and HEALTHY with lots of exercise! If you guys would like to join me let me know! Or type your own resolution in below!! And try to stick to it!

Your friend, Kelly

 

P.S. So for snacks I have implemented Jamba Juice into my regimen - I love the Strawberry Swirl! My husband likes the wheat grass he says it's very good for you! He made me drink it with him..let me tell you it tastes how it's supposed to lol! If you ever been outside while someone is mowing their yawn, and the taste gets in your mouth...thats exactly what it tastes like! Absolutely disgusting..NEVER AGAIN! I will stick to smoothies!

A video of him drinking this crap!

http://www.twitvid.com/QQG9U

GET TESTED!!!

Make sure you guys get tested REGULARLY!  To stop the spread of STD's!!  It's the only way we can help control it!  Your Friend, Kelly